GETTING ATTRACTED

November 11, 2003The enigma of why a married person gets attracted to another person other than their spouse is still a lingering question to me. To get attracted here does not necessarily mean that a man or a woman wishes to elope with that person. Getting attracted here is being absorbed by the qualities the other person has perhaps by the exuding aura his or her partner does not have, or by the traits the other person has which a married person holds.

It is equivocal why a married person, be it the man or the woman, is hurt by the fact that his woman or her man gets attracted on occasion to another man or woman. Maybe it is because of fear that his woman or her man will go astray or maybe because of insecurities that abound particularly when a spouse is lacking in one way or another.

Why be hurt when your partner gets attracted to someone, when you yourself get attracted at times? Couples should learn to accept the fact that attraction really happens. The eyes are designed to transmit to the brain what is beautiful and what is not. What actions we do to what we see will depend on the track of mind we have. But definitely everybody gets attracted to what is perceived to be beautiful.

Now the enigma lingers maybe because of not accepting this fact. Or maybe I myself am guilty of being attracted to another. That is also a reality that upsets me because I demand (indirectly) from my husband to be attracted only to me, which is not possible.

The fear of losing one’s partner because of attraction to another drowns reason that being attracted does not necessarily mean that my husband will leave me or will loose interest in me.

(A prose one particular time when attraction eats up my individuality.)