Or it isn't?
As sequel to what I wrote in Sa Aming Wika, "Hayyy, Salamat sa Diyos!" I would like to reiterate that there is nothing wrong (socially, or culturally) when a woman conceives in her middle age. I had heard talks that it is shameful to be seen conceiving when a woman is already in her 40's or 50's.
Contrary to other people's belief, I do not see anything taboo when a woman conceives in her 40's or 50's, carrying the fruit of her love. If an unwed mother (no offense meant) can have her baby and can strut on the road unmindful of what everybody has to say, what more of a middle-aged legally married woman?
What must be the primary concern is the woman's health if she decides to go on conceiving even when she is already in her 40's or 50's. A woman should be at her best during pregnancy. It is important that each pregnancy be planned, that is, both husband and wife agreed to have the baby, and is physical, emotionally and financially prepared to have the little angel (again).
Some retrogade folks can sometimes influence a woman's decision on getting pregnant. Their primitive views dictates the taboo. Foolish talks and unfounded beliefs, therefore, of shame and taboo should not be entertained. A woman should consider her well-being and that is what is important.
But what a relief! :-)
Absolutely nothing to be ashamed. Prime Minsiter Tony Blair of England's wife had a suprise baby at 45. My sis in the States had a girl at age 40. Granting that there's an element of risk with giving birth at an older age , medical technology nowadays is quite capable of taking care of the risk. A normal, healthy woman with proper care should have no problems with it.
ReplyDeleteGetting pregnant at that age is really a blessing Bing, especially to those women who really like having a new kid around, it's very rare a woman conceive in that stage of life, she must have to celebrate it .... eto na naman ako sa celebration of womanhood :)
ReplyDeleteEh, false alarm? :-)
ReplyDeletevery right, bw...
ReplyDeletelet's celebrate womanhood, melai! as to getting preggy, it would be lovely to have a new baby again but there are other concerns that must be considered..
he he yap, falsie alarmie, single. :-P
hmmm, i cant relate!
ReplyDeleteOn pregnant women, just be careful and get ready!
False Alarm! whew! are you afraid? opps sorry for asking!
no problem about the question, mmy lei. i'll answer that - 'afraid' is not the word, am more concerned about the consequences of conceiving because it wasnt according to plan. there are apprehensions about it if i turned preggy like 'are we financially capable?' or 'are the resources enough now that the schooling of the first two kids require more?" or 'am i still that healthy to be conceiving?' or 'am i emotionally prepared?' etc etc
ReplyDeleteglad to hear your thoughts..:-)
If you apply it in our society, I believe there are taboos. One of this is the 'belief' that if a woman conceives at age past her prime, the baby is bound to be either 'a genius' or 'blue baby' thus, many in our society believe so.
ReplyDeleteHowever, an increasing number of older women are having babies or planning to have another one through IVF, and they're perfectly normal.
I think it's just our mindset.
i totally agree that there's nothing wrong with a middle-aged woman to be conceiving. having children is such a wonderful blessing! :-)
ReplyDeletei heard of those, too, ipanema. it's the mindset that has to be revolutionized..
ReplyDeleteit's true, stranger, gone were the days where delivery is truly a horrifying ordeal. today, with the latest medical technology, the risks had waned.
i agree with you, i don't see anything wrong with a middle-aged married woman being pregnant... it beats younger unmarried women having unwanted kids anytime...
ReplyDeleteI think most women are just "scared" of what people might say... because they know that it will also affect the child (lalo na pag-nag-ka-"isip" na)... aside from the health things (delikado daw kasi, totoo ba 'to? eh bakit mga tao dito.. patanda ng patanda ang conceiving age?) and the generation gap.
ReplyDeletehi, cyberpunk, very true...
ReplyDeletehi, din-din, if we have to think always of what people have to say, we become paranoid. on the health issue, as i have said, nothing to worry that much nowadays. it is interesting that you mentioned the generation gap - that should be one important consideration when a woman has to conceive in her middle age.