Wednesday, February 21, 2007

Bow!

I find it odd that a friend of my daughter does the repetitive bowing each time we meet. Each time he safely brings her home and I meet them at the door, he does this seemingly incessant bows accompanied by a greeting. When he leaves, he does the same. Sometimes he does the short, repetitive, and crisp bows. There was a time, I remember, that he bowed at a deeper angle. It was like a mannerism actually. I had already asked my daughter if his parents are Japanese. Not one is a pure Japanese. But his father and a relative works in Japan I was told. His grandmother has a very little percentage of Japanese blood. Those do not explain why he acts in that manner. But could it be that the guru is the grandma?

I don't have anything against the young man, and this is not gossiping (my dear daughter, this is not, because I am not from showbiz he he). This is not a telltale also. The thing is, I haven't met anybody who greets that way, and leaves that way, too. There is a bonus with the gesture actually - an almost shy but sincere smile.


Because of that, I surfed for the facts about the act. I snatched some from Wikipedia, and I find them very informative:

  • - a bow is a social gesture used to show politeness or courtesy

  • - prominent in China, Korea and Japan

  • - originated as a gesture of subordination

  • - bowing is not only reserved for greeting, but it is also a gesture of respect

  • - different bows are used for apologies and gratitude

  • - some bows are used to express humility, sincerity, remorse, and deference

  • - some bows are used in traditional arts and religious ceremonies

  • - bows are generally divided into 3 types: informal, formal and very formal




The young man's handsome face surely reads that I find the gesture weird and at the same time fascinating. I am sure he does it out of respect and to show courtesy. A plus point?? :-D

Just to share something for the day. Bow!

20 comments:

  1. Perhaps they're taught that way if the grandma is of mixed Japanese blood. It's a sign of respect actually. What I know is that the lower they bow, the higher is the respect. You mentioned he bowed deeper, that's it. Sometimes it depends on who's bowing to whom. An employee bows lower than the boss.[correct me if I'm wrong please, this is what i know]

    I think he's collecting points from you so he can bring your daughter home again. :) But that's the way they are actually. They also like gift giving. So if a Japanese friend gives you something accept it. That's just the way they are. Of course next time, you can give yours. :)

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  2. Mano po! Mawalang galang na po! Makikiraan lang po! Magandang umaga po! Pasintabay lang po, Lahat ito ay may kasamang pag yuko na gamit sa pagbibigay galang. Unti-unti na rin bang nawawala sa mga kabataan natin ang mga ugaling pag-bigay galang? Naninibago ka lang siguro Bing dahil di mo na madalas makita ang ugaling Pinoy na pag yuko pag nag bibigay galang. Salamat naman at may natitira pang batang magalang at kaibigan pa ito ng anak mong babae! Ang pag yuko or "bowing" minsan ay sinyal din ng pasasalamat sa ating mga Pinoy.

    Ang dapat mong bigyan pansin ay pag ang lumiligaw sa anak mo ay parating nakayuko dahil takot humarap sa tingin mo o kaya eh mahina ang buto ng katawan kaya yuko ng yuko! "Walang buto" ika nga ng matatanda sa mga duwag, walang silbi at palamon ng magulang kahit may idad na!

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  3. lol @ Noypetes....nagpakadlaw ka na naman hehe

    I got Korean clients before and bowing is all over the place too to the point na kahit hindi Korean nadadala ko na yung bow ng bow...di ba weird and funny hehe :)

    But yeah it's really a sign of respect. I guess if you got use to it na, you'll not find it odd or weird anymore :)

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  4. hi, ipanema. you're right, the deeper the bow, the higher the respect. that thing about the boss and subordinate bows is true, too. he likes to give gifts, too, to my daughter. he is a nice young man naman.

    no problem actually but at first one may find it odd, considering the fact that he doesnt look Japanese. :-)

    noypetes, iba naman ang simpleng tango kaysa sa bow. ang bow e pag-bend from the waist, diva? at hindi sunud-sunod ha. kaya ko naman napansin e, dahil sa halos walang patid o sunud-sunod and ginagawa niya.

    as i've said, wala namang masama. i just find it odd. :-) naku, mainit ang mata ko sa mga palamon at tambay, noypetes. at kahit ilang tango pa, di sila pwede lumapit sa anak ko. he he

    actually, i am getting used to it, na verns. nakakasanayan din he he :-D

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  5. Definitely a lot of plus points for that! The boy is looking for your approval and he respects your Kay. :)

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  6. you think so, toe? i hope he stays respectful. he's gaining some points. but then, i still dont know the real score between the two, baka mag friends lang tapos kung anu-ano iniisip ko ha ha

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  7. To be sure, it is so pleasant some young boy having that gesture that we only see on movies or TV---like the Karate Kid and in this highly urbanized times, og hip-hop and punks, it is surely a fresh reminder that young boys and girls should remain and always be respectful to the olds.

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  8. Nah! He's probably used to bowing to "old" people... mwahahaha. :-D

    Hey wait... di ba halos mag-kasing edad tayo? Then that means I'm, I'm... OMG! :-O

    Have a great weekend, Bing.

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  9. haha! ako din madalas tumatango pag-may bago pinakikilala, or pag-mag-gregreet or bago umalis.. lalo na sa bahay ng may bahay

    or pag-yung dadaan ako sa gitna ng 2 na magkausap.. hindi uso dito yung yumuyuko.. na-wi-weirdohan yata sila sa'kin kaya madalas tinatanong ako ng mga ka-klase ko at ng mga prof ko kung bat daw ako yumuyuko.. hahaha! kung may lahi daw ako hapon?! hahaha!

    happy weekend! :)

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  10. he is a respectful young man indeed, major tom

    salbahe :-D sure ka ba magkaedad tayo, single he he he?

    baka nga me lahi kang hapon, dindin. teka, baka kamag-anak mo yung friend ni kay ha ha

    i think ang pagtango (nodding) is different from pagyuko (bowing).

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  11. I think bowing is a plus! It shows respect and humbleness.

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  12. The important thing there is respect. Mag bow pa rin ba sya sa ibang tao?

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  13. I bow a litlle... i mean nod my head when saying hello.

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  14. Or maybe medyo nahihiya sya times 1000 kasi may gusto sya dun sa cute mong anak. hmmmm.... Yung kapatid ko malapit ko na iconfront... akalain mo nagtetext until 2 AM tapos classmate lang daw nya.

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  15. How nice. Grand I would say. I would not mind it the least. I think I bow too sometimess to say thanks or hello but not a low bow.

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  16. Come one, which one really is the plus point, the handsome face or the bow? Ha ha ha. Just kidding.

    Happy weekend.

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  17. Come on! which one really is the plus point, the handsome face or the bow? Ha ha ha. Just kidding.

    Happy weekend.

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  18. That's part of his and nothing wrong with the bow as far as I'm concerned basta walang kasamang wow wow :) Pag me tahol malala na ang tama hehe :)

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  19. you think so, ferdz?

    he is always like that to anybody he greets, lazarus, young and old.

    be gentle with your little sis, mon...

    i was not comfortable with it before, leah am getting used to it.

    both, rolly.

    that's part of him na di na maaalis siguro, bw. wag lang talagang kakahol! :-D

    thanks everyone for taking time to share your thoughts. pardon for the delay in answering. :-(

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