I think every parent knows that no two children are alike. Though parents have many children, there could never be an exact replica of the other. There maybe some who seem to be like the others but in summary, they are still unique individuals.
That is why we do not treat each child equally. That may seem odd to the ears but it must be. We should treat them according to their needs. If an offspring needs attention, then attention it must be. If another wants to play or talk with you most of the time, then you give that time to your child. If only one of them wants a MP3 while the rest are insisting on ipods, then give accordingly (if you can afford he he).
With this process of giving to your offspring what he or she needs, you also learn more about your children. You discover things with them, about them. You teach yourself the value of patience and understanding. You become a new person, or maybe a better person.
How do you treat your children? Do you treat them fair as in giving each child the same toy you gave to the first child? How about buying only one and teach them the value of sharing? I am very sure that each child see the toy differently and according to what he or she needs. It does not really require you to buy the same toys for all your children. Learn to know what they truly need.
The same concept applies when they grow up. Not everybody needs an ipod. Not all of them want a new outfit. Not all of them are sociable. Not all of them are easy to please. Therefore it is not necessary to give everything that you think should be given fair and square. Your children have different needs.
That is why we do not treat each child equally. That may seem odd to the ears but it must be. We should treat them according to their needs. If an offspring needs attention, then attention it must be. If another wants to play or talk with you most of the time, then you give that time to your child. If only one of them wants a MP3 while the rest are insisting on ipods, then give accordingly (if you can afford he he).
With this process of giving to your offspring what he or she needs, you also learn more about your children. You discover things with them, about them. You teach yourself the value of patience and understanding. You become a new person, or maybe a better person.
How do you treat your children? Do you treat them fair as in giving each child the same toy you gave to the first child? How about buying only one and teach them the value of sharing? I am very sure that each child see the toy differently and according to what he or she needs. It does not really require you to buy the same toys for all your children. Learn to know what they truly need.
The same concept applies when they grow up. Not everybody needs an ipod. Not all of them want a new outfit. Not all of them are sociable. Not all of them are easy to please. Therefore it is not necessary to give everything that you think should be given fair and square. Your children have different needs.
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