turn to poison
in the ducts.
Alice Walker (1944 - )
U.S. novelist and poet.
Men are stereotyped as the macho, not-supposed-to-cry human species. Usually one hears remarks like "You are not supposed to cry, you are a man!" It was like, for me, saying that to cry is not manly. I beg to disagree.
While most men are not willing to express pain in tears, it could help them ease the weight they are concealing. To cry does not mean that one man hurt more than the others did. To cry is just expressing how a man perceive the pain to be.
Crying is a sign of weakness? No, it could be an aid to healthy living.
If women can fight against disease by crying, then men are supposed to let go and cry even for once. How does crying help then? Let us consider the tears. Tears secreted by the lachrymal gland wash away germs and other small objects that may enter the lid area of the eye. Tears also contain a protein that kills certain germs. (Human Disease, © 1993-2003 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.)
Aside from the benefit we gain from tears, crying relieves stress-related disorders. Stress-related disorders include hypertension (high blood pressure), headaches, back pain, skin disorders, irritable bowel syndrome, and ulcers. Stress is also believed to contribute to coronary heart disease (atherosclerosis, or narrowing of the heart’s arteries) and some cases of cancer. (Stress-Related Disorders, © 1993-2003 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.)
Man, I am not saying you cry instantly when waiting patiently in line, or when you are caught in a traffic jam, or when you are in a crowded place and you can not move fast! I am saying express your pain willingly through tears when negative events come along. Why will you conceal the pain from the death of a loved one? Why will you pretend it does not affect you when a relation failed? Why not weep because of a major injury or illness? It is okay to cry. Men and women are allowed to. No exception.
It does not diminish a man’s virility if he cries once in a while. It does not downgrade a man to a lesser human being. Cry if you want to, in the confines of a room, or in the open. It strengthens a man no less than a woman.
But I must forewarn you. Do not drown yourself – to depression.
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hit next blog, just dropping by. one of my male coworkers actually shed tears at the baby shower of his supervisor. When we all yelled surprise, she was overwhelmed. He said, "aww man, now she's gonna make me cry". I didn't believe him and I said, "no you won't". But when I looked at him, there were tears in his eyes. At that moment, he was the sexiest, most beautiful man alive.
ReplyDeletehi! yea, i agree.. touches my heart, too, seeing a man shed a tear. those unexpected moments are really sweet!
ReplyDeletethanks for dropping by.
when me and my husband got married.. he made the most beautiful thing he's never done in his life --he cried and said "iloveyou".
ReplyDeleteand that made me cried back for joy.
If there were times nagtatampo ako sa kanya, i pictured back that sweet scenario on our wedding.. yun lang, mahal na mahal ko na naman ulit sya, nawawala na yung tampo ko may kasama pang hug! So see how powerful crying can do?
take care sistah! mwahhh! =)
i'm a cry baby myself. i agree that men should cry too. nahihiya lang ipakita sa iba. masarap ang feeling pagkatapos mong umiyak.
ReplyDeletenao,
sis, naiyak siguro siya dahil sa iniisip niyang gastos ng kasal. nyahaha. biru lang sis.
that was so sweet, nao! enough reason to forgive and forget LOL
ReplyDeletetake care, you too!
ha ha ha 'nga, no, KU! ang laki siguro ng ginastos!
ReplyDeletehindi naman dapat ikahiya iyon. ang mga lalaki ay mga human being din, e.
I used to tell my preschool students who are boys that it's ok for boys to cry. The last time my hubby cried in front of me was when I was breaking up with him noong boyfriend ko palang sya. But I know he's a softie inside, I caught him teary eyed while watching "The Lion King" cartoons. That makes him a man for me.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, the "sun" will shine brighter today, with you!
[para ke --KA URO] ahahahhaa natawa naman ako don! uy.. wak kaw ganyan.. labs na labs ako nun =)
ReplyDeletei admire guys who cry kasi it tells me that they are in touch w/ their emotional side. if only guys would cry more and talk about their feelings, baka mabawasan ang suicide rate sa mundo (it has been documented na mas madaming lalaki who commit suicide compared to women).
ReplyDeletetama!:)
ReplyDeletei actually admire men who are not afraid to cry.:)
para sa'kin ang lalakeng di umiiyak ay hindi normal ang buhay...para sa'kin lang yun ha..walang aangal "tatadyakan ko ang aangas".hehehehehe
ReplyDeleteseriously,talagang ang mga lalake ay kailangan din umiyak kahit paminsan minsan lang...
men and women are both endowed with sweat glands, so both can sweat.
ReplyDeletemen and women are both endowed with tear glands, so both can shed tears.
if we don't find it weird for men to sweat, why then should we find it weird for them to shed tears?
sol,
ReplyDeletei also had that similar experience. brought up with the conservative notion that boys arent supposed to cry easily, i was really 'shocked' to see him cry and at the same time awed by the kind of affection he has for me. who wouldnt have a soft heart and forgive a man who sheds a tear for you?
the "sun"?
you are very right, nikki! the surveys show that there are more men who commit suicide. kaya nga ang aking advice, e, let go - of the tears LOL!
ReplyDeletenao, kaaliw ha - the phrase 'wal kaw ganyan' - reminds me of hubby.
ReplyDeletebaby pink! admirable nga, i agree. at nakakainlove LOL
ReplyDeletemaangas talaga, lws, ang mga lalaking ayaw ipakita ang kanilang pagiging human being, at ka-plastikan na rin he he pero wag ka, ang iba e ayaw lang ipakita at nahihiya kasi. minsan mali rin ang lipunan to think that a man who cries e may pagkabading.
ReplyDeletethe sad fact is, there are people who thinks it is weird (men and women alike). palasak na nga yung kasabihang, 'lalaki ka, di ka dapat umiyak!' na ibinabato sa mga batang lalaki.
ReplyDeletethanks, Alan!
I haven't cried for the longest time. I bellieve you're right. Crying has its own benefits. Maybe the reason women outlive their husbands is because of societys expectations from them. PRovide, protect and all that machismo. Well, I'm sure we're seeing a paradigm shift as more and more women are found in the work place.
ReplyDeletehello ka, rolly... i dont know, pero i feel honored everytime you drop by. this is true, really.
ReplyDeleteyes, a lot of expectations that lead men to unexplainable frustration and loneliness that cant be discerned at once. sometimes, i feel that men are more vulnerable pa nga. maybe because of the piled emotions inside that 'should' not be displayed. para kasing dyahi yun sa iba. well, if that can't be done in the open, pwede naman alone or with someone who is trustworthy enough, minsan lang naman,e! just to let them all out. kahit wala nang sound ha ha pero psst... mas masarap umiyak me sound ha ha
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