It felt like hot beads trailing along her face, scorched cheeks wrath yet dampened with those hot beads. She never thought she would still feel this way – so hurt with jealousy.
Why do men deny? Even with certainty, why do they deny?
“Don’t give me that shit!” she exclaimed blinded with burning anger and refusing to allow his conceived reasons.
Why do men deny and make women feel that it is their fault when it is their fault?
She was revolting. And crying again. And feeling hurt again. While he seemed decided to bring an end to any discussion earlier than the confrontation. No words ensued after the painful clash.
Why deny instead of sincerely asking pardon?
She could not forget the scene and be comforted with his words. “I always think of you when I gaze at other women.” But the scene does not speak of his love.
Why deny when actions speak louder than words?
Earlier, she promised she will not spill a tear. But tears kept coming… while he sleeps.
Why do men deny? Even with certainty, why do they deny?
“Don’t give me that shit!” she exclaimed blinded with burning anger and refusing to allow his conceived reasons.
Why do men deny and make women feel that it is their fault when it is their fault?
She was revolting. And crying again. And feeling hurt again. While he seemed decided to bring an end to any discussion earlier than the confrontation. No words ensued after the painful clash.
Why deny instead of sincerely asking pardon?
She could not forget the scene and be comforted with his words. “I always think of you when I gaze at other women.” But the scene does not speak of his love.
Why deny when actions speak louder than words?
Earlier, she promised she will not spill a tear. But tears kept coming… while he sleeps.
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Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right to be upset. Men want space while women want understanding.
- John Gray, MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS
Men and women are often on different wavelengths.Totally missing each others' signal....*sniggers*
ReplyDeleteTo say that men are from Mars and women, from Venus is an understatement. The two planets are still close to each other. Truth is, men are from one obscure planet in the Andromeda Galaxy.
ReplyDeleteThat's why....
ouch! why oh why weren't we made to see eye to eye?!
ReplyDeletehi, snglguy. that's the problem - totally missing each other's signal. but who should be doing something so that the wavelength will go the same direction?
ReplyDeleteha ha understatement ba, Nico? and what might be that planet?
obscure? making men obscure, too? but i dont perceive men that way. i think this is you men's way to say, 'stay away, mind your own business'.
hi, 7th stranger! so big a difference, a north and a south...
Men and women are light years apart indeed. I wonder how gay marriages work!
ReplyDeleteIt is tough for man and women to see eye to eye in all aspects of the relationship. It is always a challenge treasure someone so imperfect but yet so wonderful. They say you are into a real relationship when your love for the person transcends beyond your need for him/her.
Men are from Mars... is a catchy title. You have to have one to sell a book. I have seen a show on PBS about this, and it seems that the women in that show were of the rich spoiled type that has nothing to do all day but think about what is missing in their lives - they've got everything else.
ReplyDeleteThis is not to say, however, that there are no issues out there. But the reality is both parties have something to do with a souring relationship. They just don't want to be honest with themselves. They are in perpetual self denial.
It is hard for people in places where divorce is frowned upon. Couples are forced to live lives that don't work.
People who live in this world: try to fix relationships that don't work. If it can't be fixed, they end it and look for something that will work.
Examining and re-examining ourselves to find something wrong with us or our relationships is nuts. Only men from Mars and women from Venus do this.
bw, i doubt if gay marriages or relations will work eye to eye. i think it's more complicated. that's profound - love that transcends one's need for a loved one.
ReplyDeletehi, anonymous!
ReplyDeletei don't own the book. someone let me borrow it. it is more a rediscovery than a guideline to me.
in as much as i would like to agree with the self-denial thing, i think it is best that a couple should consider giving a second try to a failing relationship. something somewhere somehow could save the relationship. at times, being honest is not being honest at all, it is a mechanism to avoid a threat to a very high regard to one's self.
of course, there will always be relationships that cannot work. that would be understandable if nothing happended to the going-overs.
for some people, the reverse of john gray's quote holds true -- "women argue for the right to be free while men argue for the right to be upset. women want space while men want understanding." take it from me, i've experienced it ;)
ReplyDeletehiya bing!
ReplyDeletethe way I see it, couples are never "forced" to do anything. real couples, the ones who have found the proverbial common ground, live on the same planet.
some people have done the self-examination and are happy to have found that they do belong to each other.
people who profess to be couples but still think they live on different planets maybe shouldn't be couples at all.
bakit nga ba hindi maibigay ng mga lalaki ang simpleng kagustuhan ng mga babae -- ang maging tapat?
ReplyDeleteat bakit nga rin ba ang hirap 'ispelengin' ang mga lalaki?
pero... magkaibang-magkaiba man sila, at kahit na iilang bagay lamang ang maaari nilang pag-agree-han, handa pa rin silang suungin ang lahat, makasama lang ang bawat isa.
weird. :D
hmmm...im learning a lot, hehehe...
ReplyDeletePrecisely why men and women do not agree... but why can women just say what they wanted to say so that men can understand what they really want?
Why do women have to have millons of interpretation on a single action of men?
hehehe..just asking...
DOPS
i meant for the side of guys ;) i've experienced what the lady in your story had experienced, only this time, it's the guy who is crying and it's the girl who's sleeping. um, i think i can't elaborate anymore...it's such a wounding experience. but certainly, full of insights and lessons in life. :)
ReplyDeletehmmm... maybe because men and women's values are inherently different, DOPS. that is why both parties should try to understand that there are differences.
ReplyDeletegot it, corsi. just uncommon that women or girls act the way men do. depends on the situation siguro.