This cannot be avoided. I sometimes find myself, too, wallowing in thoughts that do not help - past thoughts, regrets, or ideas solely based on anxieties – rolled into one.
But there are worst-case scenarios where an individual cannot be productive anymore because of self-pity. They become burdens. They live unconcerned.
I refuse to give in to self-pity. When I am nearing that point of becoming a defeatist, I talk to myself; and I usually talk to God most of the time. I talk profusely, no limits. (But I have to make sure I am alone.)
It is useless to think that others are better and I am not. That way, I will not move anymore and be a sloth. It is useless to think that I am useless because there are things I can do that others cannot.
And there are those who think that their life is harder or sadder. They stop living. They treat themselves like ripened fruits waiting to fall. Interest is not palatable anymore. Everything is bland. Crap…
I think that people think this way because of pride, too. Self-pity is one form of pride. One is so pre-occupied of self overlooking the other people around who might need their attention, company, or help.
Look back. But recollect the good life. Because weighing all things, good and bad, the good still outweighs the bad.
Ang cute ng picture Ate Bing, he he.
ReplyDeleteYour post is very warm and inspirational :)
Oh, wow. You finally ditched Blogger. I'm growing impatient myself but I can still manage to remain loyal at the moment. *LOL*
ReplyDeleteYes, bad decisions have a way of putting us down. Only if we dwell on it too much. Life moves forward. We can be sad for some time, but in order to live life, we must focus more on the present and the future. That's the ONLY way to go.
The apostle Paul wrote in Philippians 3:13-14, "...this one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining forward what is ahead. I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus."
ReplyDeleteYou are uniquely created by the Lord, Bingskee. Nobody can put you down without your consent. :-)
(P.S. Joel Osteen's book "Your Best Life Now" is a good read. It reminded me anew that I'm fearfully and wonderfully made.)
For the life of me, I think I saw you near the overpass going to SM North EDSA this afternoon.
ReplyDeleteWas it you?
thanks, jane. cute talaga ng pic na 'yan. mukhang kawawa pero ang cute sobra. :-P
ReplyDeleteyea, ditched blogger last march pa. lipat ka na, doc emer, you'll never regret it. but i had this to tell you that free account offers limited designs. and you cant alter the html.
we really don't have to dwell too much on the past. it will freeze anyone to death.
that's a very nice reminder, jayred. thank you, too, for the Bible verse. should keep it in mind always. is the book available in the Philippines?
it was me, punzi. sayang. it's been a wish come true sana - to at least meet some of the bloggers. but please ayoko ng isaw, ha? :-)
aaaww... what a dear! :)
ReplyDeletemisan pakiramdam ko din lulubog ako sa depression... then i'll realize na mas madami akong dapat ipag-pasalamat.. at mas marami pang mas malaki ang problema compared sa'ken na hindi nag-gigive up.
very true, din-din. we tend to be so preoccupied of ourselves sometimes oblivious of the things around us. isipin mo na lang, how people some others cope with poverty, pero sige pa rin sila sa buhay. when i feel so defeated, i really talk alone and pour every frustration to God. jayred is right, i am uniquely created by God, and realizing this should be enough to stop self-pity.
ReplyDeleteYes, Bing, it's available at Power Books and at NBS. The book costs Php599.00 and its accompanying study guide costs Php499.00. I bought a set for my Mom, and one for me.
ReplyDeleteCoincidentally, my brother in the States called and said he was also 'blessed' by this book's Bible-inspired message. I plan to buy another study guide for my husband (it's like your fill-in-the-blanks type of book that goes with the inspirational book). But for now, the main book will suffice.
Joel Osteen's site can be found here: http://joelosteen.com
Have a nice weekend! God bless.
Self-pity, it kills everything in a person. It's one of the worst man-made disasters.
ReplyDeleteThey say that the barometer of our achievements is the amount of challenges we overcome and not what others have achieved compared to ours. Self-pity would be an act of giving up, of declaring oneself a failure. In this life good can be bad and bad can be good and there's no way to appreciate the good until we experience the bad. The irony is experience is a real bad teacher because it gives the results first before the lesson.
ReplyDeletehi, jayred. i am currently reading A Purpose-driven Life. it is a good book, too, and it has a guide. had a book that is like the book of j. osteen when i was in college, and it had a guidebook, too,i forgot the title.
ReplyDeletetama ka, rolly. one of the worst.
really ironic, huh, bw - to experience the good after the bad.
self pity...pride.. i remember a friend who was an ex-saudi, he can't find a stable job in the phils. Hanap kasi ng malaking salary, because of pride , kawawa tuloy yung family nya.
ReplyDeletei also know someone who was very picky about jobs, and ends up begging. mahirap ang masyadong mataas ang tingin sa sarili, di ba, ann?
ReplyDeletehave an ate named bing as well... feeling the same way too.. might be another form. "self-pity is another form of pride" true. all things will pass and i hope soon. thanks bing i'll link u up. thanks.
ReplyDeletenagugutom na ko...
ReplyDeleteHello Bing,
ReplyDeletenew blog ah, tagal ko na talagang di napapasyal. Hibernating eh, haha. I always reflect about what's happening in my life, good or bad, what propels everything to happen to me, and that's what gives me focus on taking the next step in proper perspective.
Magkikita kami ni Von Totanes mamya, balitaan kita ha. Maybe we can stir up something for our PTN first year anniversary. Medyo maluwang na ang schedule ko, back to circulation na naman ulit. Take care & keep in touch!
hi, yuri.. talaga, siguro mabait din siya, 'no? i think nobody's spared with feelings of inadequacy and frustrations, and as you'd said, all in different forms.
ReplyDeletehi, sol! miss ya! i think that it is positive to treat bad things, too, as something to make us focus on the next plan. ikumusta mo ako kay von..
Hi bingskee,
ReplyDeleteBlog hopping and reciprocating your kind visit to my domain.
In response to your article:
I find that if you constantly ponder over those unpleasant experiences and you work too long on tedious stuff, you’ll only rot your brain ten times faster than normal speed of becoming demented. The warts and wrinkles becomes more in-depth that even Picasso will find it difficult to reconstruct an abstract imaginative beauty.
Take care now eh and hoping to see you around again...
oh, my! the warts and wrinkles! :-P that is why i always choose to stay cool (after contemplating) when frustration sets in...
ReplyDeleteam good.. thanks! i like your blog where you speak out your minds and sentiments.
Bing, I always say that we should try to be bEtter, not bItter, persons. Just one letter makes a BIG difference. So, count your blessings and enjoy the rest of the week!
ReplyDeletehi po. this was an inspiring post, to say the least.
ReplyDeletei have made mistakes in my past - things i sometimes regret. but then i think, if those did not happen, would i be where i am now?
and where i am now is exactly where i would want to be.
hi, bugsy! that's nice, what a difference a single letter can make..
ReplyDeletevina, thanks for regarding this as inspiring. it was my intention. am glad to know your mistakes in the past had thought you to be wiser...:-)