Suspicious Wife

Just the other day, on my way home, I saw a male friend in the act of running off, too. I asked first where his route is and if I can be given a lift up the corner of the main road. He forced an alibi that he will have to stay a little later. Puzzled by the answer, I opted to leave immediately and boarded a jeep.

I was so puzzled that I even asked Papsie what could be the possible reason why my friend reacted that way. Just the other day with a co-employee, I was in that vehicle. Still wondering, I asked another friend if my male friend's wife is a jealous type. She confirmed and said that everyday his wife is waiting at the corner of that main road. She also said that my male friend could have deliberately avoided the chance of giving me a lift. But I insisted why the other fellow girl employee was allowed. And my friend told me that perhaps because she was a close friend of the wife, and a business partner, too. That's it? And if I will be their business partner, I can be given a lift? Really odd.

I also experience, although I don't know how natural it is, pangs of jealousy. I usually feel jealous when Papsie's attention is caught by a pretty woman passing by, and gets lost in the conversation. But I don't get hysterical and start an argument. I would usually be silent and not utter a word anymore. Yes, not a word, even if he pesters me why I suddenly do not answer or become silent in the middle of it all. I discuss the things indirectly when I feel it is the right time, starting from hints to direct assault. :-( What I cannot understand is why I get the puzzled look always from Papsie when I suddenly become silent. It is as if he is not guilty of anything. Now, I may have overcome the feeling. That is maybe I have already matured (?) to understand that he is not leaving me when he stares at a pretty woman passing by. ;-)

Out of the blue a thought surfaced! Maybe there are tests to assess jealousy and true enough there is a jealousy test for women, and for men, too.

I got a 34 and it means this. Couldn't agree more.

Most people experience a certain amount of fear that their loved one could leave them for someone else. After all, these things happen, and when they do, it is usually very painful. You fit right into this usual range - certain situations may spark feelings of jealousy, but generally you are not preoccupied with the fear of losing your partner. If you were honest with yourself while taking the test, this means that you are secure, strong, independent and rational enough to recognize the possibility of losing your partner to someone else, but not be consumed by it. That does not mean that you do not care; you would certainly be as sad or crushed as anybody else. However, you know that if it ever happens, you will survive with your self-esteem and dignity intact. You realize that even though you might love your partner very much, s/he is not the only fish in the sea, and that you would eventually find happiness with someone else. Such feelings give you a sense of security and the strength to trust, and allow you to be comfortable in the relationship. That, in turn, boosts the chances of a lasting and fulfilling relationship.