It is explicable why the number of single individual increases as time goes by. The many concerns of a married life which revolve mainly to keep up with the demands of one’s own family inhibit the desire to marry. But what is wrong, anyway, being single? Being single does not mean unhappiness, being single does not mean one is unfulfilled.
I would be married, but I’d have no wife,
I would be married to a single life.
Richard Crashaw (1613? – 1649)
English poet.
They say it is better that one gets married. It is not an argument of which is better. Both positions have their pros and cons. The question is how one lives as single or married. And to be specific, one of the points at issue is how one celebrates sexuality being single or being married. Being single does not mean abstinence nor does it mean promiscuity.
Marriage has many pains, but celibacy has no pleasures.
Samuel Johnson (1709 – 1784)
British lexicographer and writer.
Some say that women cannot be happy staying single while men will forever be happy being single. I doubt if it holds true with successful or fulfilled single women screaming their presence in the male-dominant ‘world’. I doubt if the suicide rates would mean that men are happy being alone or living alone.
The only real happy people are married women and single men.
Attributed to H. L. Mencken (1880 – 1956)
U.S. journalist, critic, and editor.
As seasons come and go, being single will be a state where one would think not only twice before getting married. It will mean times unnoticed that the hair is turning grey and the afternoon of life looms. The times immemorial scorned a spinster and hail a bachelor which was a discriminating truth that lingered for a while. Today, men and women enjoy the grace of single blessedness without disdain but with admiration sometimes.
No times to marry, no time to settle down,
I’m a young woman, and I ain’t done runnin’ aroun’.
Bessie Smith (1894 – 1937)
U.S. blues singer.
I would be married, but I’d have no wife,
I would be married to a single life.
Richard Crashaw (1613? – 1649)
English poet.
They say it is better that one gets married. It is not an argument of which is better. Both positions have their pros and cons. The question is how one lives as single or married. And to be specific, one of the points at issue is how one celebrates sexuality being single or being married. Being single does not mean abstinence nor does it mean promiscuity.
Marriage has many pains, but celibacy has no pleasures.
Samuel Johnson (1709 – 1784)
British lexicographer and writer.
Some say that women cannot be happy staying single while men will forever be happy being single. I doubt if it holds true with successful or fulfilled single women screaming their presence in the male-dominant ‘world’. I doubt if the suicide rates would mean that men are happy being alone or living alone.
The only real happy people are married women and single men.
Attributed to H. L. Mencken (1880 – 1956)
U.S. journalist, critic, and editor.
As seasons come and go, being single will be a state where one would think not only twice before getting married. It will mean times unnoticed that the hair is turning grey and the afternoon of life looms. The times immemorial scorned a spinster and hail a bachelor which was a discriminating truth that lingered for a while. Today, men and women enjoy the grace of single blessedness without disdain but with admiration sometimes.
No times to marry, no time to settle down,
I’m a young woman, and I ain’t done runnin’ aroun’.
Bessie Smith (1894 – 1937)
U.S. blues singer.
What about, “Living in?” Couples live a married life (as close as it can get, anyway) and keep their single status. Why it’s almost like having and eating your cake too.
ReplyDeleteBut not so fast, this style of living comes with the same obligations and responsibilities of a real married life, and leads to an inevitable conclusion – separation or marriage.
To stay single is a true challenge. My Uncle, for example, could charm almost anybody. I always enjoyed his visits, if only to meet his beautiful and charming girlfriends. He would wink at me when my aunt nagged at him to get married (you probably know how that goes.) For some reason, women just love this guy. Maybe one of you girls could explain this.
Anyway, he married – 3 times. Now I have three more beautiful aunts, and two cousins who are just like their dad. And my Uncle, he is back to his self – single.
Bing, nice post! Especially nowadays, women are postponing the "I do's" and waiting longer for the right moment to raise a family. (I fall into that category!)
ReplyDeleteI'm single,obviously.Hehe But was very much married although it ended badly.But being in a bad marriage once doesn't mean I'm against it.In fact,I still believe in marriage as an institution.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I admit,it is not for everyone.Different strokes for different folks I guess...
anonymous, as you have mentioned, living in comes with the same obligations and responsibilities of a married life. being single is devoid of a life like that. one may have relations with the opposite sex, be it sexual or not, but it is very different from being married or living in with someone who shares everything married life requires.
ReplyDeletei must admit that there are really attractive/charming and single persons. maybe the reason why they are sought is because they are single - 'UNATTACHED".
hi, liz! thanks... i think there is no reason to hurry. it is a matter that needs to be pondered before one plunges into it. they say each of the couple should be physically, emotionally, and financially stable. that way, it would be easier. but most of the time, when love gets in the way, some of these are set aside.
ha ha, not really for everyone, snglguy! no wrong being single though. it is how one lives life.
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. - Socrates
ReplyDeletehi, senor enrique... yea, sure. and thanks.
ReplyDeleteNico, so get a wife and be happy he he
yeah, it doen't matter if you are single or married. what matters is how you live your life.:)
ReplyDeletei don't have plans of staying single for the rest of my life, but i have no plans of getting married just yet. i mean, gusto ko talaga pag-isipan at paghandaan muna 'yan kasi your spouse will be your companion for the rest of your life. kasama mo na 'yan hanggang kamatayan kaya parang hindi tama na padalos-dalos ka. hindi ba, miss bing?:)
yes, baby pink,, no need to hurry. sabi nga di yan tulad ng kanin na kapag mainit ay iluluwa. take your time and enjoy. be very sure you are emotionally, physically, financially stable before plunging.
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