At the Table, or in the Bed

Warning: This contains subject matter that parents may find unsuitable for younger children to read.

I read from a tabloid newspaper (which I forgot the name) that men are very sensitive about sexual issues, even in the privacy of a room with their mate. A woman partner cannot casually tell her partner that he could not bring her to orgasm, or that he should do this instead of that, or simply, that he should take a bath before the bout.

Discrepant sexual desires^a can also be one cause of the decline in sexual interest and behavior. When each of the partners focuses on different intents during the course, the act of love will not succeed, or will succeed involuntarily. Of course there are other causes why there is decline in sexual interest – physical changes, illness, production of estrogen or testosterone, emotional upheavals, etc. But given a situation which is almost as perfect, partners should learn to know each other’s desires.

It is not easy for women to convey the message that her partner failed to bring her to climax, or that she is not satisfied the way her partner is doing the act, or that the whole process is boring. Even without the knowledge that men are so touchy about this subject, women seem to know that it is but wrong to bluntly express about or openly address the issue.

The article in the tabloid tells of the many ways how women can convey the message to their partner. What is interesting is that men if guided or lead by their women partner can give not only enough but greater than what women expect. Words, actually, are not necessary to lead men to do exactly what women want.

At the table, or in the bed, what exactly gives pleasure to men? But it is important that they know that women enjoy the act as men do, at any given time, at the exact spot.

^a refers to a condition in which partners have considerably different levels of sexual interest. (Sexual Dysfunctions, Human Sexuality, Microsoft Encarta Reference Library 2004.)