Thursday, July 28, 2005

When Promises are Made to be Broken

I received once an email from somebody. The contents felt more obligatory than sincere. It contained a promise.

Promises are made to be broken. When words are easily promised, they are easily forgotten, too. There is a saying, too, that a promise is like a piecrust made to be broken. That is why as much as possible one should not give his or her word uncaringly. When one swears, it is binding.

On the other hand, though one breaks a promise, he or she will still have that chance to make it up. But it should be the soonest possible time. Or else, ramifications will ensnare you to no end.

People who could EASILY make promises sometimes seem not to care the least. They have priorities in their lives, all right. But they should vow no vows when things are not really doable or probable. They should consider how the other party would feel being taken for granted, or being belittled because he or she is ignored.

What if there are more important things that one should address? Then don’t promise. Please. It would be understandable if you don’t give a word. Just tell that you will try to the best that you can. But no promises.

We might be guilty one way or another of giving promises that we could not keep. We have the chance to ponder now - consider what we would feel if someone did not keep his or her word.

16 comments:

  1. I totally agree with you.. the fact is that promises are always broken.. therefore why make one in the first place? ..peace out

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  2. i couldn't agree more with what you said! =)

    i personally know someone who keeps on making promises he couldn't keep. i'm always left disappointed. =( but there's a part of me that keeps on wanting to believe in him... that's why i'm still here.

    it sucks, though. but then again... ahh well... it's just too complicated to even talk about. hehe.

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  3. i know exactly how you feel. i have been there too a lot of times. i tell myself not to expect even if somebody promised me something to avoid getting disappointed but it is easier said than done.

    i too am guilty sometimes of breaking some promises but as much as possible, i try not to promise, but say "i will do my best".

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  4. Unfortunately, we live in a time where the term palabra de honor does not seem to hold much meaning anymore.

    If others insist on breaking their word, let them. Lets just be wary of them.

    As for some people, giving your word is still a sacred thing. I would like to think that I am one of those people. :-)

    If no one believes anyone else anymore...than we would have been already lost as a people.

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  5. hello, botoxjunkie..

    there are those who can keep their promises. so, that means there are still promises that are kept. but one should avoid making promises that are not doable.

    thanks for the visit.

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  6. hi jaymsterbean!

    i know people, not only one who do not keep their promises. it is frustrating but better forget than keep on believing. or if you still can give your trust, no harm believing but dont you think it is abuse?

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  7. that is very right, nikki. just say you'll try, if you are not sure you can not keep a promise.

    again, I say, it is frustrating. and sometimes when you look up to somebody, that respect is diminished because of not keeping a simple promise.

    there are people really who wants to play around with other people's feelings. when things are not doing you any good, then enough is enough.

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  8. oo nga, ronallan, palabra de honor is missing. ngayon, lima singko ang mga pangako but keeping them is not really in their agenda.

    you are right, we have to be wary. i also believe that giving one's word is sacred.

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  9. agree. ika nga, "let your aye be aye and your nay be nay."

    what if someone says "i promise not to keep my promise?"

    hehehe...

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  10. patawa si NICO LOL

    pero paano nga kaya 'no kung me magsabi sa akin nun? hmmm... paghahandaan ko 'yan.

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  11. promised nothing ever goes wrong..whatever happens it happens for a reason "maybe"when promised don't go your way, there is a reason. ganundin sa achievements syempre when you don't achieve the desired results, there is a reason.

    understand the cause, understand the reason, and still you can change it for the better. there is a reason behind what promised... so make that promised work for you in a positive way...

    eto ay hindi profound na comment sabi sabiko lang nagmumula sa puso:)

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  12. hi lws,

    when someone makes a promise and he wasnt able to keep it, i try to understand the cause or the reason. but if a person repeatedly makes a promise and doesnt keep it, there is already something wrong. if this is the case, that person is making you stupid.

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  13. people should just do things instead of promising to do them.

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  14. hi Anp!

    similar to the saying "actions speak louder than words"...

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  15. eto nabasa ko sa readers digest this morning.

    Father:"remember this,my child:success depends on honesty and wisdom".
    Child: "But what is honesty?"
    Father:"honesty is keeping your promises."
    Child:"what is wisdom then?"
    Father:"making no promises at all."

    heto pala yung blog ko na isa---http://halohaloespesyal.blogspot.com/

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  16. j, ganda naman! will visit again when i have enough time ha?

    time constrained ang mader ngayon, e!

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