The Best Position

It is so easy to rouse feelings of disagreement. Just contradict somebody’s statement and presto, you are into an argument. We all run into arguments with everybody we meet that can be from the household, from the work area, from our circle of friends, or from our acquaintances. These could not be avoided.

But at times arguments become expressions of anger. When this happens, the objective of resolving an issue is defeated. We all give reasons to what we believe in to support it but arguments often lead to dispute or serious disagreement.

What could be the best position in an argument? Of course, that you win an argument. I learned that in order to obtain the best position in an argument, one should learn WHO SAYS WHAT TO WHOM. When one decides to win an argument, he should take into consideration the source, the message, and the audience in order to persuade the person he argues with. This is equivalent to saying that you argue as a wife to your husband regarding some domestic concerns and not about work aspects. Or you argue with your help about simple instructions undone in a system of communication she can understand. (You would not definitely talk to her in English when she cannot understand a word from it.)

Also, pressing concerns and state of emotions affect what someone has to say. There is a quote that says, "… Be careful when you’re tired and angry. You might say something you will soon regret." So, if one feels he or she is not emotionally prepared, he should not run into an argument.

And when an opponent, or simply, a person you argue with, goes wayward and is just concerned with showing the whole word that you are no match, stop the argument. Or when you feel that the person is merely interested to verbalize his or her personal sentiments against you, and not about the issue, end the argument. Do not speak a word anymore. As US writer Dale Carnegie expressed, "There is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument – and that is to avoid it."

------
For Adults Only

How important is sexual posture in lovemaking? Is there such a thing as the best position? Experts say that it is best to consider the position to enhance enjoyment in lovemaking. But is there really such a thing as the best position?

Personally, I believe that whatever sexual posture a couple prefers, what is important are they learn the techniques as their relationship matures, and that they are both happy and satisfied with their preferences. It is also important to note that both of them agree with the technique they will be indulging in. Repression of feelings should be avoided. Each of the couple should feel free to express what each other want.

I don’t know with the others but maybe, just maybe, the Kama Sutra could help if a couple finds difficulty to find a technique that best suits them.