What an early greeting for us last Friday morning last week…
A jerk was crossing the intersection of the street to Balintawak market and Kaingin Road together with his companions. He was walking slowly in the middle of the street like he was having a good time and mooning. Papsie had no option but to beep. They were a series of beeps impossible not to notice but the creature of illogicality went walking like he didn’t care causing Papsie to put on the brakes.
Papsie, being so irritated pulled over just beside that jerk, “May problema ka, boy?” (Do you have a problem, boy?). The man was taken aback but only for a while and retorted, “Masyado kang nagmamadali, e.” (You were such in a hurry.) I was trying to calm Papsie down because the left part of his body was shaking because of anger. I was mad at the jerk and at the same time worried about Papsie.
There was traffic and the man got by the car. That time it was him talking loud and repeating, “Masyado kang nagmamadali.” (You were such in a hurry.) “Para kang nananadya (You were doing it on purpose), a,” came Papsie’s remark, “Binubusinahan ka na nga, e (The car was beeping.)” The loudmouth exclaimed, “E, sa tumatawid pa ako, e (I was still crossing the street).” “Iyo ba ang kalsada? (Is the road yours?),” came Papsie’s angry reply. The man kept repeating in a loud voice, “Masyado kang nagmamadali.”
I know Papsie wanted to curse that man or step down from the car (if he is in normal condition) and give him what he deserves but was also trying to control his anger. I advised him to ignore such creatures whenever he meets them. It was not worth it really to spend words when a person thinks so much of himself. When the mind shuns reasoning, the discussion will not prosper. No amount of good will result from such altercation. The jerk is simply rude and illogical. If Papsie submits to the senselessness, he is more than that creature.
Even at work, or anywhere, there are also people who reasons like that illogical creature. They test one’s way of thinking, too.
When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
Dale Carnegie (1888 - 1955)
U.S. writer and speaker.
John Braine (1922 – 1986) said, “Pleasant people are just as real as horrible people.” I voice an also precise and true line, “Horrible people are just as real as pleasant people.”
A jerk was crossing the intersection of the street to Balintawak market and Kaingin Road together with his companions. He was walking slowly in the middle of the street like he was having a good time and mooning. Papsie had no option but to beep. They were a series of beeps impossible not to notice but the creature of illogicality went walking like he didn’t care causing Papsie to put on the brakes.
Papsie, being so irritated pulled over just beside that jerk, “May problema ka, boy?” (Do you have a problem, boy?). The man was taken aback but only for a while and retorted, “Masyado kang nagmamadali, e.” (You were such in a hurry.) I was trying to calm Papsie down because the left part of his body was shaking because of anger. I was mad at the jerk and at the same time worried about Papsie.
There was traffic and the man got by the car. That time it was him talking loud and repeating, “Masyado kang nagmamadali.” (You were such in a hurry.) “Para kang nananadya (You were doing it on purpose), a,” came Papsie’s remark, “Binubusinahan ka na nga, e (The car was beeping.)” The loudmouth exclaimed, “E, sa tumatawid pa ako, e (I was still crossing the street).” “Iyo ba ang kalsada? (Is the road yours?),” came Papsie’s angry reply. The man kept repeating in a loud voice, “Masyado kang nagmamadali.”
I know Papsie wanted to curse that man or step down from the car (if he is in normal condition) and give him what he deserves but was also trying to control his anger. I advised him to ignore such creatures whenever he meets them. It was not worth it really to spend words when a person thinks so much of himself. When the mind shuns reasoning, the discussion will not prosper. No amount of good will result from such altercation. The jerk is simply rude and illogical. If Papsie submits to the senselessness, he is more than that creature.
Even at work, or anywhere, there are also people who reasons like that illogical creature. They test one’s way of thinking, too.
When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
Dale Carnegie (1888 - 1955)
U.S. writer and speaker.
John Braine (1922 – 1986) said, “Pleasant people are just as real as horrible people.” I voice an also precise and true line, “Horrible people are just as real as pleasant people.”
being logical is relative. it depends on the person's point of view. sometimes even when we know we are wrong we retort to something illogical just as a defense mechanism at para hindi mapahiya. i reckon, the man walking across the street knew he was wrong but because he was asked "may problema ka ba?" na parang tinutuya siya, his immediate response is to think of anything to say to counteract his pagkapahiya. and so he thought of "masyado kang nagmamadali", kahit alam niyang dapat niyang bilisan ang pagtawid niya.
ReplyDeletein these situations it sometimes helps to think in the other person's shoes. imagine you are the person crossing the street. you are walking with your companions. nauuna ka ng konti sa mga kasamahan mo. you slow down dahil hinihintay mo ang mga kasama mo at para makita ng mga dumadating na sasakyan na may iba pang tatawid at mag-slow down din sila. you look at the traffic and you realize that oncoming vehicles have no reason not to let you pass because the traffic in front of them won't let them go through anyway. so according to your judgement, the oncoming vehicle must slow down and let you cross as a courtesy. yet, the oncoming vehicle sounded its horn and shouted at you "bilisan mo". gusto mong sabihin in a nice way "please be courteous to pedestrians" pero dahil napahiya ka at nasaktan and ego you retorted angrily "bagalan mo kasi, hindi iyo ang kalsada".
the incident was his companions were almost like running and he was like taking time to walk kahit na bumubusina na ang MGA sasakyan. from the other road of the intersection, he was also beeped by the driver of a van. the intersection is a busy road kasi. hindi naman nagagalit nang ganoong kadali si Papsie. kaya lang, from what i saw, parang nanadya talaga ang mama that caused his anger. judging from what i witnessed,not because he is my hubby, i cannot find reason why a horn would hurt his ego. the others reacted in a different way. and besides, that point is not where the pedestrians should cross.
ReplyDeletemy husband's reaction was unexpected. he felt slighted siguro kasi lumingon pa ang mama at parang 'nananadya' slowing down his steps while the others were almost running. that's why i advised him to be able in control palagi. after all, wala namang kapupuntahan ang makipagtalo.
thanks for sharing your view,KU.
I have been in your Papsie’s situation many, many times. And I must admit that I had the same feelings. I want to get out and give a taste of my irritation. But, thankfully, reason prevails.
ReplyDeleteThe person behind the wheel should always exercise good judgment and a cool head. Besides, we are pedestrians, too. But when we are behind the wheel, sometimes, we metamorphose into completely different beings.
The truth of the matter is pedestrians have the right of way, all of the time. Of course, there is no excuse for pedestrians behaving badly and we must pay careful kindness to those who taunt us since they are very “special” people.
Bing, cheers to you and Papsie for your good sense. It takes character to overcome anger. I just hope that placed in the same situation again, I will always remember what I just said here today.
The most important lesson here was that your Papsie kept his cool.
ReplyDeleteImagine what would have happened if his emotions ruled.
Sabi nga dito,"Ang mainis, Talo." and this is really true everywhere.
I guess, the 90/10 principle should always be in our minds.
Likewise, Nony is right. By law and by rule (everywhere in the world), pedestrians have the right of way, all of the time.
Pedestrians have the right of way...as long as it's ON THE SIDEWALKS. The streets are for vehicles and should be clear of any obstruction to have a continuous flow of traffic. Besides, that part of EDSA Balintawak has an overpass doesn't it?
ReplyDeleteOnce,I saw a woman cross EDSA with a baby on her arm and a couple of small kids in tow. Stupid really... :-(
Not good for your blood pressure ! :-)
ReplyDeleteBy the way I hope you are feeling better now.
In my observation there isn't any discipline at all on the streets and roads of the Philippines. I am amazed by the fact that there are not more accidents nor fights here.
for nony, rolly, and snglguy, i am not a driver but i got interested of this RIGHT-OF-WAY. the definition from Wikipedia i think is very apt:
ReplyDelete1. with reference to the question of which of two or more moving vehicles has priority:
*similar rules apply on land to determine priority at a crossing or in traffic. A vehicle must yield either to pedestrians or to other vehicles that have priority. It is NOT AN ABSOLUTE RIGHT as it must be exercised in a REASONABLE MANNER with respect for the due care for one's self and for the care of others involved.
this is very clear to me and i hope for everybody, too. nevertheless, i agree with you, nony when you wrote, 'The person behind the wheel should always exercise good judgment and a cool head.' and to you, rolly about the 90/10 principle that should be in our minds always.
snglguy, to some extent i agree with you. natatandaan ko, sabi nga ng isang friend, 'ang kalsada ay para sa sasakyan, at ang tamang tawiran ay para sa tao.' the intersection you mentioned is not the one. tepok ang sinumang tatawid doon lalo na ngayon. i was referring to an intersection inside Kaingin, a block away from EDSA.
ha ha yes, sidney, not good for the BP...
ReplyDeletei couldnt agree with you more about the discipline. pedestrians and motorists alike have discipline problems.
i am not yet in a very good condition... will be undergoing for more tests.
naalala ko ang sinabi ni rolly "mainis, talo". ganun nga nung nasa saudi rin ako. palagay ko nga nangiisnis lang yung mamang tumatawid. may mga taong talagang maraming oras sa buhay kaya walang magawa kundi manginis ng iba. for them it's like a game kasi. just tell papsie to stay cool.
ReplyDeletei am glad , KU, that he was able to at least hold the temper which was starting to rise.
ReplyDeletePedestrians having the right of way as a general rule reflects our respect for human life. In
ReplyDeletecongested areas where humans and cars crisscross, we have traffic lights and pedestrian lanes to regulate traffic flow and avoid accidents There are roads like superhiways where humans have no business ambulating because of the high risk of accident esp
during darkness.
In dense areas, drivers will have to exercise restraint and avoid getting into a road rage mode at all costs. If a pedestrian crosses at a turtle pace or worst , without proper anticipation of an oncoming vehicle, the driver is compelled to slow down and let him pass. If a deranged pedestrian nonchalantly "walks" in front , in the same direction of the vehicle with total disregard of vehicle traffic, the best way is to pass the person. If it is a one way street and impossible to pass, this is where prudent judgment takes over. We can blast our horns or verbally advise the person to move so we can pass. There is no merit for heated arguments or altercations. We might be dealing with a total jerk or a drug junkie who can do us a lot of harm. Papsie controlled his anger which was the right thing to do.We must keep our cool and avoid getting into a road rage mode at all costs! My 2 cents.
You're right! Sayang lang oras mo sa mga ganyang tao. Ako, I always take it easy when I'm on the road. Mapapaaway ka lang ng walang katuturan pag pinansin mo lahat e.
ReplyDeletei very much agree, bw you have very good points and they all boils down to respect and love for human life. part of the 'paalala' to my dear Papsie was to think always of the possible consequences when we give in to our anger. it is not bad to feel it but it must be used also to hone our temper.
ReplyDeletehello, mr rolly! that is what i have been telling Papsie. if you 'make patol', what happens next?