JS Prom Photos, 4th year HS and 3rd year HS.
As she whines about her recent JS Prom photo, I cannot help recall the times when she was just but a small kid who likes to complain. Even when she was still very young, about four to five, she has that strong character of articulating what she feels.
I will never tire of appreciating how she had grown to be – assertive, strong-willed to the point of being stubborn, independent, and always tries to be on top of everything she does.
And sometimes I am afraid. Afraid for her – of being hurt, of being rejected, of being crossed, and of being treated with indifference, I get so petrified that sometimes I overdo the role as a mother.
She is not a baby anymore. A budding young woman with many dreams, she aspires to get a nice job someday and to bring Papsie to the US. And guess what she wants to spend her first earnings for? A dog. Yes, a dog to which her grandmother rebuked by telling her to buy a house first before the dog.
I will never tire of appreciating how she had grown to be – assertive, strong-willed to the point of being stubborn, independent, and always tries to be on top of everything she does.
And sometimes I am afraid. Afraid for her – of being hurt, of being rejected, of being crossed, and of being treated with indifference, I get so petrified that sometimes I overdo the role as a mother.
She is not a baby anymore. A budding young woman with many dreams, she aspires to get a nice job someday and to bring Papsie to the US. And guess what she wants to spend her first earnings for? A dog. Yes, a dog to which her grandmother rebuked by telling her to buy a house first before the dog.
From whom did she get her stubborn and assertive nature? Probably you, bing. LOL! :D
ReplyDeleteha ha they always tell me that, snglguy!
ReplyDeleteI think that's every parent's worry - the time when their children will experience loss, rejection, etc. and how they will handle it. But as much as we don't want them to get hurt, we know that eventually they will and it will only make them stronger as a person.
ReplyDeleteAren't you just amazed at how our children pick up our own personalities, good and bad?
you are very right, niceheart. we cannot spare them these things because they are inevitable. i just hope and pray that they can handle it and make them stronger.
ReplyDeleteyes, our kids are mirrors.
"Not a baby anymore" ... your post reminded me of my nieces. Their JS prom pictures reminded me, too, that they were no longer babies. My sister (their mother) said she had ambivalent feelings. She didn't know whether she should be happy that her girls were already young ladies or sad that this also tells her that she will be missing her "baby girls".
ReplyDeleteShe has so much of you in her, I just could see it. That's why perhaps there is so much wisdom and guile in her so elegant look.
ReplyDeletetama sya, bugsy, mixed feelings of joy and sadness na me kasama pang fear.
ReplyDeletesalamat nang marami, major tom, sa mga compliments.
They say that rearing a child is like flying a kite. We make them soar high but the difference is, at some point we release the string so they can soar by themselves.
ReplyDeletekakatuwa naman. proud mommy talaga kayo, miss bing!:)
ReplyDeleteStrange...but I also feel the exact feeling you describe whenever I look to my growing daughter.....
ReplyDeletei think u shud add sa updated CV mo and description na "One Cool Mom". i havent been on ur site for a looooong time tita bing. need to catch up.
ReplyDeletewhew, made a boo-boo on the other comment...sorry had to delete!
ReplyDeleteyou have a very pretty dalaginding!
she seems to have a very good head on her shoulders. good job in raising her, you have every reason to be proud.
you have to see your daughter now as a woman that understands how this stage of her life means to her. often the mother in you tend to be more protective and assertive of things that you think is good for her.
ReplyDeleteYou have passed this stage and I know you, more than any other, understands her better.
Of course we are afraid because we had some pains in life that we don not want our offsprings to go through. But sometimes there are lessons that they themselves have to go through to understand the ways of life better and mature to become a better person with a more optimistic but realistic outlook in life.
I thought it's your sister!
What a pretty daughter you have, Bing! Nakakakaba nga since dalaga na siya, di na bata. :-) Marami ng aaligid sa kanya.
ReplyDeletethanks, rhada! it is not really easy bringing up a young lady like Kay.
ReplyDeletehi,rey! thanks for taking time sharing your thoughts. you are very true in saying that as much as possible, i would not want my children to experience the pains i had undergone. but it is also true that they have to learn life by themselves.
do i take the last line as a compliment? *grins*
hi, jayred! 9 yrs old pa lang nga yan, kinakabahan na ako ha ha pano ba naman me nagregalo ng big teaddy bear without an occasion ha ha
ReplyDeleteshe's a pretty girl. mamaya-maya lang may boyfriend na yan. kakabahan ka nga. hehe. but don't worry too much. she sems very responsible and smart. she'll do just fine.
ReplyDeletei can sense that she wanted me to trust her always, nico. i am just too anxious maybe.
ReplyDeletewill let her know your comments about her. BTW, i noticed that you had a new template. i like the shadow best, very original.